A lot of couples mostly thinks that they are not opposite entirely, but they are different on some other ways. What makes us all unique and different from each other would be our personality where there are those who may be reactive and some are patient. You may have a partner that’s diligent and you are forgetful. To simply put it, each balanced out the other.
If your parenting style is different from one another, this can be something frustrating and can be destructive, creating dissonance and distance for partners and kids can become confused as well. Many couples in fact differ when it comes to the best way in raising children. This is actually true and likewise apply to same sex couples. This is because most personality traits and personal beliefs lie dormant until a child is born and the qualities is what leads us to fall in love more with each other.
Many parents actually studies on parenting before they will have a child, but our styles are in fact instinctual and is usually based on how we are raised, what we have observed and to what we are taught. There are some parents who are a lot more authoritarian to where they usually say that “parents knows best” and that obedience is more important. Some parents also are more permissive and they are usually afraid to upset their child. Some also are the combination of the two. When this is going to be practiced in conflict, your approach as a parent could send mixed emotion towards your child and this could then cause damage to your parenting. These could confuse your child on who they should follow and which are the real rules.
Different kind of parenting styles should never lead to disasters. In other ways, the divergent style could help kids about preparing themselves better when it comes to the different types of people. For parents, this is an opportunity for them to achieve balance through their differences. The secret to it is that each parent must be okay on the role with what they are taking on. An important function about co-parenting is to actually form a united front and to reinforce your kids which partners react on a particular situation differently.
Parenting is something that requires constant assessment and it also needs an adjustment which is being based on a child’s temperament and development. Due to this, it is really important to talk and to also learn more about the goals when it comes to raising your child and to how both of you will come to these goals.